10 Ways How to keep your man interested

Want to know how to keep a man interested? It is often said that men like a challenge. To “reel, catch and keep” him, many dating gurus will tell you to wait before having sex, don’t be too available, don’t be too needy, act like a “cool girl”, pretend you’re not interested, play “hard to get”, blah blah blah.

You can do any and all of the things mentioned above, but what then? What about when you snag him? You’ll either have to play games for the rest of your relationship or at some point cart out the real you and see what ensues. You don’t want it to become a full-time job if you want to keep your man interested in you.

Not to mention, we attract our mirrors. So you’ll both likely be in for a lot of f*ckery then a revealing disappointment that you’re dealing with the same dishonesty you may be dishing out. So do you want to feel like a Scooby-Doo episode or a relationship?

Or worse, cue the 7-year itch, the 2-year slump, the 35-year divorce, or any other time-laden euphemisms for “We figured out we don’t really Love each other after all.”

How do you challenge a man and keep him interested?

To put it simply, it is generally true that men need to be challenged if you want to keep them. But frankly, we all do to some extent. Unfortunately, the dating industry interpretation of “challenging” usually culminates in appearing “hard to get” by being manipulative. Which for most of us is not as much challenging as it is counterproductive to creating an authentic connection.

How do I know this? Trial, error, and tons of real life research on how to keep guys interested.

So for you, my single girl-on-the-go, I would like to offer some “Leaves From the Elder Tree” even though you did not ask and I may not be elder. (That’s one of my book titles, don’t steal it I got the copyright.)

If you are just starting in the dating scene or about to re-embark, but especially if you’ve been plugging away at it fruitlessly for a really long time here is…

10 ways to keep a man interested

… by authentically becoming “A challenge”:

1. Read, read, read.
   Be an information junkie. There is so much out there to know and share. People are challenged when they encounter other people who can discuss ideas and new frontiers. Make sure you are not obnoxious, just organic, and engaging.
2. Fall in love with hobbies.
   Travel, craft, build, garden. Always be engaged in something that you would do for less than nothing. I, personally, would keep writing even if it meant a frequent punch in the face. You don’t have to get hit, but definitely immerse yourself in passion-fueled activities whenever possible. The challenge will be to tear you away from that potting wheel, canvas, rock quarry or whatever floats your dingy.
3. Do unto you by doing unto someone else.
   You’re more than enough right now, just as you are. One thing – helping other people just expounds on your awesomeness. It also teaches you about life, grows your spirit, and takes up the free time that you could be focusing on whether some dude called. Believe me, this state of mind keeps men interested and intrigued. You will stop thinking about ways how to keep a guy interested. You will simply start attracting the right ones this way and make them show interest in you naturally.
4. Love your career.
   This is a great way how to keep your value high. Cut it out with the job hate. Fix that crap now. I’ve been there. Too much time will be funnelled into inappropriate pursuits with unsuitable people when the real issue is you’re simply trying to be distracted from job misery. I know, we all gotta pay bills, but trust me the sacrifice of your life’s quality cannot possibly be worth your salary. Money can be lost and earned. Time, it just runs out. Spend time every day doing things you fall in love with. Even those outside of your comfort zone.
5. Make ‘working out’ a non-negotiable part of life.
   Do something you love and do it for you and you only. Stick to it, not just for your hips but for your heart. Challenge people to keep up with you. Make him feel that you are more than adequate.
6. Have a stronger relationship with your word than you have with anyone else. Get everyone you know used to your actions matching up with your words. It’s impossible to perfect, but the simple act of practice with keeping your word will make you an inspiration. Inspirational people are a challenge to others. By their very existence, they say ‘heed the call of inspiration’.
7. Decide/know who you are and be proud of it.
   You no longer need to be looking for a way how to keep a man. The roles are reversed now, guys are chasing you.
8. Don’t sacrifice your pleasure for someone else’s.
   Give, give, give but only for as much as it feels joyful and unattached from an outcome. The moment you start to expect something in return, you are over-functioning (read as under-challenging).
9. Don’t start or stay at any dating pace with which you do not feel comfortable. Having a fast-paced sex life doesn’t make you a strong modern woman. Knowing what you want and staying 100% true to it does. Get clear and accept nothing less. Let him know (subconsciously), that you are not sitting around waiting for a ring from one non-committal schmo. That would be like ignoring a lush garden while watching one plant grow. Besides, men don’t like being pressured into that.
10. Keep in mind, being “available” means I’m in an awesome relationship with myself and have more than enough love to share with you – if you prove worthy. You are not afraid to lose him because you have so much going on in your life already. No need to figure out how to keep the guy. He is more than happy to stick.

You can make him feel not only interested but obsessed with you.

The idea is to live your life fully, regardless of relationship status.

As long as you keep living out loud, life will present all the distance, scheduling difficulties, and high-pressure moments you’ll need to cultivate solution-based connections. It is only a by-product when you keep the guy interested. You make him feel attracted to you without him knowing why. It feels awesome when the guy is chasing you because you know that you are awesome. I can tell you for sure that this is exactly what men love in a relationship with women. Men crave this sense of uncertainty. Your job is to make them feel exactly this way. keep him interested in you indirectly, not by pushing him. believe me, it makes guys crazy about us.

Is this some set of dating rules that you have to follow perfectly to the letter to be challenging and interesting enough to have love? Absolutely not. We’re all human. We all get too ‘accessible’ sometimes. None of us is perfect. Just don’t pretend that you’re challenging and interesting, know that you are. All this is just a part of the ever-lasting love game. Take it like some love language that you need to learn first. Employ your gut feeling. self-respect and common sense.

Want to know how do you keep a man obsessed with you?

Being able to keep a man obsessed with you effortlessly is not a matter of skill, affirmation or some mystery. It is a state of mind that is coming from knowing that there is one thing that is common to every man – and you can use it to be able to attract any man you set your eyes on. Read more about the secret ingredient of every relationship that will get him addicted to you in this article.

As always, wishing you Love & Life.